A few weeks ago in our Sunday School class, one of the pastors at our church and his wife did a 3 week series on Marriage. Much of what they taught was from the book “Emotionally Healthy Spirituality” (a book which keeps popping up in conversation all over the place – it’s on my list to read!). They shared with us a tool that Than and I have committed to work through weekly. Basically, it’s just intentional information sharing. Every Saturday morning we are making a point to sit down and do this…though sometimes it’s Saturday afternoon or evening by the time we actually do it! Like last night over dinner…at PF Changs…our favorite – YUM!
Here’s how it works – each person shares whatever is on their mind from each category and you just share back and forth. For the most part it isn’t intended to really dive into the issues that are brought up or solve any issues. It’s a great chance to practice your listening skills!
Appreciations or Excitements
Worries, Concerns or Puzzles
Complaints and Possible Solutions
It’s really fun to see the information that comes out in this – it definitely covers topics that we might otherwise miss out on if we weren’t intentionally going through this exercise. The new information is the hardest for us because our current situation in life has us spending a lot of time together. But I’ll let you in on a little secret – keep in mind that you’ll be having this conversation on Saturday and save a little tidbit of information to share – easy as that! Why not give it a try? It’s a great way to continue to build connection and goodwill in your marriage.